| When something happens in your life, it tends to | | | | But what about the death of a loved one? It's a |
| bring up a certain amount of feeling. Someone cuts | | | | terrible situation that can bring up all sorts of feelings. |
| you off in traffic, and it brings up anger or perhaps | | | | Once again, you're much better off embracing the |
| fear. That anger and that fear have a certain amount | | | | most feeling you can as quickly as possible. |
| of volume to it. | | | | The problem with a grieving situation is that it often |
| Or perhaps you're grieving for the loss of a loved | | | | brings up other unresolved emotions that have not |
| one. You have a certain volume of grief you must go | | | | been dealt with before. Admittedly, it can be difficult |
| through. Once you've felt that volume of grief, then | | | | to tell what is the honest grieving and what is the |
| you're over it and you move on with life. | | | | unresolved shame, pity, anger, etc. For example, am I |
| No matter how emotionally healthy you are, there's | | | | feeling the genuine sorrow from my mother dying, or |
| still a certain volume of emotion you must deal with | | | | am I feeling the unresolved shame that she dumped |
| at any given time. The more cleanly you're willing to | | | | on me fifty years ago? |
| feel that emotion, the quicker you'll get over it. | | | | If you're not used to being honest with your |
| You can feel ALL the anger from someone cutting | | | | emotions, it can be hard to tell the difference. Since it |
| you off in traffic right at that moment. And within a | | | | takes a certain amount of discernment to know |
| minute you can be completely over it. Back to what | | | | exactly what you're feeling under the best of |
| you were feeling before the incident. | | | | circumstances, how can you be expected to know |
| Or, you can take little pieces of that anger, mix it | | | | what you're feeling under the worst of |
| with a whole bunch of nonsense, and chew on it all | | | | circumstances? |
| day long. And still have some leftovers for tomorrow! | | | | Obviously it's important to not put any more |
| If you choose to feel it all at once, it's almost like a | | | | pressure on yourself than you've already got. Simply |
| 'body rush'. Somewhat similar to the body rush you | | | | be aware of the principle of 'volume of emotion'. |
| feel when surprised by a snake, or suddenly looking | | | | Know that you have a certain volume of grief that |
| down from a tall height. Or any other situation that | | | | will need to come out; expressing itself as a wide |
| brings up a rush of real fear. | | | | range of feelings. |
| You know that rush I'm talking about? Some people | | | | Accept whatever you're feeling as valid and worthy |
| get addicted to it. | | | | of being felt. While keeping in mind that many |
| Well, it's possible to feel that same rush with anger. | | | | unresolved feelings of the past may also come up. |
| It's a different body sensation from the fear, but the | | | | These feelings also deserve to be accepted as valid |
| same principle. You're choosing to feel it cleanly and it | | | | and true and worthy of your attention and embrace. |
| rushes through your body so fast it actually | | | | Remember, no matter the event - good or bad, |
| invigorates you. | | | | wanted or unwanted, pleasant or unpleasant - it will |
| Some people go for the fear rush because they like | | | | bring up feelings in you. All events engender feelings. |
| the way it makes them feel. While I don't | | | | Those feelings have a certain volume. The more you |
| recommend it, I do understand it. Because it leaves | | | | open yourself to feeling them, the quicker you'll |
| you feeling 'more'. | | | | release them, the better you'll feel about yourself, |
| Seeking out that adrenaline rush eventually leads to | | | | the more alive you'll feel, and the greater your |
| various problems. The point I want to make is that it | | | | emotional health will be. |
| feels good to cleanly feel your emotions - no matter | | | | Want a rush? Want a thrill? Give yourself permission |
| what they are. The quicker you allow yourself to feel | | | | to embrace the volume of your emotion as cleanly |
| the volume of emotion, the better off you'll be. AND | | | | and as quickly as possible. |
| it actually feels better to get it out quickly. | | | | |