Successful Living: Achieving Happiness and Fulfillment

A successful life is about finding your true purposetrue. You may have to work for it, however."
and pursuing it with all your passion. It is about findThe Empress of the British Empire, Queen Victoria,
the true riches of life that lead to happiness andadmonished, "We are not interested in the possibilities
fulfillment. It is having goals that drive your life.of defeat."
Many people who achieve fortune in the world areDo YOU Have What It Takes?
not born rich. But they accomplished it through hardThere are qualities of endeavor and achievement
work and a plan of action. Every type of person onthat are common to many people who make it to
earth can become successful. There are saints andthe top. The following questions are a guideline to
scoundrels; philanthropists and thieves; poets andself-enterprise and attaining your goals.
politicians; young and old. There are no limitations or-Do you prefer to work for yourself than for others?
physical boundaries for success.-Are you well-informed on current business and
Success comes to those who deeply think aboutpolitical affairs?
success and constantly strive for it! Although many-Are you a leader?
rich financiers at the turn of the century had no-Do you take advantage of opportunities?
formal education, they overcame that and went on-Do you pay attention to what other people say?
to great fame.-Can you finish a job even when it is difficult or
Some people strive towards a single goal from earlyunpleasant?
in life, and often attain that goal while still young.-Are you challenged by problems?
Others are willing to risk new adventures later and-Do you have a goal you want to achieve?
still attain success.-Do you consider other people?
"It's never too late to learn," wrote Malcolm Forbes,-Do you strive to attain?
the money magnate. "I learned to ride a motorcycle-Can you obey commands?
at 50 and fly balloons at 52."-Can you bounce back after defeat?
Whatever your task, whatever your obstacles, you-Do you believe in yourself?
can be as successful as anyone else. Study the-Can you stand by your actions in spite of criticism?
people who accomplished recognition in the areas of-Can you follow instructions?
your pursuit. How did they achieve their goals? And-Can you respond to the needs of others?
don't be afraid you don't have what it takes.-Will you give credit to others?
As Daniel Webster wrote, "There is always room at-Can you make your own decisions?
the top."-Are you determined?
Forming Conviction--Are you ready for success?
The single attribute that every successful person hasEstablish a Goal-
is the one pointed devotion to attain a goal."There in-What do you want?
the sunshine are my highest aspirations," wrote-Are you looking for financial security,
Louisa May Alcott, "I can look up and see theirprofessionalacknowledgment, spiritual attainment?
beauty, believe in them, and try to follow where-Do you want to fit better socially, or become more
they lead."expressive creatively?
What are your desires? How can you form them intoEstablish the goal that's right for you.
definite goals that you can attain?Then turn that goal from a dream into a desire. You
Lawrence Peter wrote, "If you don't know wherewant to realize that goal, not just wish for it. Aesop
you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else."said, "Beware that you do not lose the substance by
Maybe you're studying a craft or skill. Perhaps you'regrabbing at the shadow."
caught in a rung of the corporate ladder. Or, you-Know exactly what you want, then go for it.
might feel constricted by your family and the-Don't be tricked by your own procrastination-
environment around you.especially if you want to achieve something artistic.
Which star are you reaching for?The writer Thomas Wolfe wrote, "I had been
"Ours is a world where people don't know what theysustained by that delightful illusion of success which
want and are willing to go through anything to get it,"we all have when we dream about the books we
wrote Don Marquis.are going to write instead of actually doing them.
Take the time to think about your own aspirations.Now I was face to face with it, and suddenly I
Look inside to find what feels right. Almost everyonerealized that I hadcommitted my life and my integrity
entertains the notions of fame and fortune, but putso irrevocably to this struggle that I must conquer
on the 'costume' that fits you. Conviction requiresnow or be destroyed."
certain qualities of action. Successful Living requiresCan you see what you want? If you want the
that you be sincere and be willing to assumeabundance of material wealth that money provides,
responsibility. And you need the self-disciplinewhat goal will give you that money?
necessary to work towards your goals.-Do you want the prestige of owning your own
-Are you prepared to achieve your dreams?business?
-Can you form their reality in your mind?-What business do you want to begin?
-Will you devote your entire being to attaining what-Where are the opportunities for you?
you want?!?Talk to everyone in the business you want to join.
On Your Own-Make friends in the literary or art societies in your
Most millionaires are non-conformists. So are thearea. Read books and articles about your field of
most famous actors and actresses; and the mostendeavor. How can you attain your goal?
prominent artists. Writers are known for their"If you don't want to work, you have to work to
individual traits and eccentricities. Your convictions andearn enough money so that you don't have to work!"
goals are your own business, even when you findwrote Ogden Nash. Money makes money; success
help along the path.breeds success.
Mentors often take people under their wings toBut not always.
nourish and teach. Or spiritual guides will show youHow can you break through those thoughts to help
the path to attainment. But you're on your own toyourself to the rewards?
achieve.Henry David Thoreau wrote...
Cultivate a sense of justice and an ability to make"I have learned this at least by my experiment: that
decisions. Cooperate with everybody and developif you advance confidently in the direction of your
your own self-respect. And follow good criticism anddreams, and endeavor to live the life which you
advice after you've judged carefully.imagine, you will meet with success."
J. Paul Getty said, "I advise young millionaires to beThink BIG and passionately visualize success,
skeptical of advice. They should advise themselves;consistently and without ceasing:
they should form their own opinions."-Do you see yourself in a big house?
Lord Byron wrote, "There is rapture on the lonely-Maybe you picture your artwork hanging in a gallery.
shore." And if you attain your goals with poise and-Can you feel your book in print and in your hands?
sincerity, you'll find warmth and love at the top- not-How does it feel to be a person of success?!?
the cold loneliness pictured by the jealous. Put onAffirm-
blinders to negative comments and criticism meant toTo make firm.
hurt you.Make firm that you are; know that it is in your grasp.
About the people who criticize, Voltaire wrote,That's what the others did, and that's how people
"Never having been able to succeed in the world,make it to the top. Then get down to basics.
they took revenge by speaking ill of it."Be precise.
Seize the Day!Exactly how much money do you want, and by what
People are judged by what they think and what theydate?
say. But the true measure of their character is whatAnd exactly what are you going to do to earn that
they do. Anyone who has achieved success andmoney? Be realistic, but give yourself short-term
fortune in the world has done it by action. Williamgoals. Write it down. In six months or one year, you
Jennings Bryan wrote, "Destiny is not a matter ofwill have how much money. And repeat it until it feels
chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to begood. Then repeat it twice a day until it swirls in your
waited for, it is a thing to be achieved."subconscious, until it becomes your one-pointed goal.
The choice of the path you follow is often put"The goal stands up, the keeper stands up to keep
before you as opportunity. "Few people recognizethe goal," wrote A.E. Housman.
opportunity," said Cary Grant, "because it comesKeys to Successful Living-
disguised as hard work."-Make people feel at ease- They will respond to your
Don't let opportunities slip past while you're stillneeds as you respond to theirs.
considering them, and create new ones as you see-Share the spotlight.
them. "Wise people make more opportunities than-Give credit to those who deserve it- and to those
they find," said Francis Bacon.who strive.
What opportunities can you act upon? Woolworth-Don't grab praise away from other people.
saw a need for small inexpensive items and opened-Have confidence in your own value.
the chain of stores that grossed billions. Wrigley-Don't do anything that won't credit your own
started giving gum away as a bonus from a suppliesself-respect.
wagon he sold from, and saw the opportunity to-Follow up your actions as they reflect your own
make money from the gum that became in highself-worth.
demand.Listen well to others' comments. Then weigh your
All successful people the world over have found theown actions. Cultivate relationships with people who
opportunities for their own special talents and actedhave good and important things to say.
upon those ways to achieve. Why wait for the timeParticipate in life.
to pass? There's never a better time than now.Be active in business meetings and endeavors;
Lewis Carroll believed as many as six impossiblevolunteer to be part of organizations and groups.
things before breakfast. Take your own impossibleSocial interaction will boost your sense of well-being.
dreams and make them become reality.Feel worthy of your own goal.
How They Think-Know that you can attain it and that it is right for
Thousands of potential millionaires are born everyyou. Grasp your own challenge. Don't give yourself
year. And making a million dollars is coming closer toimpossible goals, but always reach higher. Relax and
everyone's pocket. What advice did thebe yourself. Each person is different and just as
money-makers follow?wonderful as the next. Don't be plagued by what you
Aristotle Onassis worked eighteen hours a day tothink others think of you.
maintain his fortune. He started as a welder andDon't bathe in success- use it. Once you achieve your
aimed for the top. "You have to think money dayfirst goal, go on to others. Use the money you earn
and night," he said, "you should even dream about itfor the rewards you look for. Then go on to the
in your sleep."next endeavor.
John D. Rockefeller, Jr., said, "I believe in the dignityBe slow to criticize others' achievements. Find out
of labor, whether with head or hand; that the worldhow they did it and learn from them. Never use
owes every person an opportunity to make a living."subterfuge. Don't go behind someone's back. Speak
And J. Paul Getty acknowledged his hard work: "Iyour mind and earn respect. Banish negative thoughts
have no complex about wealth. I have worked hardand traits. Restructure your life to exclude bad habits.
for my money, producing things people need."Believe in yourself and what you are to accomplish.
Even Proverbs advises: "In all labor there is profit."All the power in the world is within you to achieve.
Richard Bach, the author of the best-selling "JonathanSuccess in life is attainable for everyone who follows
Livingston Seagull" wrote, "You are never given atheir dreams and passions.
wish without also being given the power to make it