| I'll admit it. I cry at movies sometimes. I'm | | | | rank. When it came time for his sparring, his Sensei |
| comfortable with it and not ashamed in the least. | | | | jumped up to spar with him. I noticed that the older |
| Movies are stories and stories have been used to | | | | man was having think before reacting, he would see |
| elicit emotions (either by design or accident) since the | | | | something coming, he would stand there for a brief |
| beginning of man. Some of the most fantastic stories | | | | second and then he would react. It was clear that his |
| are tremendously moving. This emotion can be | | | | faculties weren't as sharp and his body wasn't as |
| manifested as a 'feel good' or a 'tear jerker', it can | | | | quick, but yet, it almost brought tears to my eyes to |
| be uplifting or depressing, revolutionary, or merely | | | | see this man walking into the ring, walking onto the |
| entertaining. The most important thing to keep upper | | | | matt and doing his level best. Moreover, it impressed |
| most in your mind as you think about stories, is that | | | | me that his Sensei made him look so good. He |
| they are an opening, a hole, so to speak, that you | | | | respected him enough to make him look good. I |
| can fill with a message, your message. | | | | realized this wasn't about outperforming the man, it |
| Stories tailored for business and sales need to | | | | was about respecting the human spirit.' My son's |
| consider the emotional state of mind that they will | | | | Sensei just beamed and he responded, 'That's |
| put your prospect our client in. In persuasion, we're | | | | absolutely correct. You've got it right on all fronts.' |
| really simply using stories to control these emotional | | | | What preceded this, is a two paragraph story on |
| states. The value of stories is in the state in which it | | | | respect that most likely elicited an emotional |
| puts our audience. | | | | response. I wanted to illustrate to my son the |
| When I tell stories I want to both make a point and | | | | importance of showing respect for our elders just in |
| put my prospect into a profound emotional state, | | | | the same way the Sensei showed respect to his |
| carry them away, so to speak and open to accepting | | | | elder. |
| my message. | | | | The story worked and my son understood |
| Ideally, we should have an arsenal of compelling, | | | | profoundly. The story also touches me profoundly as |
| persuasive, powerful stories at our ready for any | | | | I have a great affection for both the Sensei and the |
| given situation. Think about 'respect', for example. For | | | | older man in the ring. |
| our affluent and perhaps elderly clientèle, the | | | | With emotional storytelling I look to constantly and |
| idea of respect is sometimes an incredibly important | | | | consistently maneuver the emotions of the listener, |
| and motivating factor as to whether or not they | | | | and once I've opened them up emotionally, I can |
| want to do business with you. | | | | implant anything I want. What is a story like this, |
| With my son, I do my level best to instill a sense of | | | | about respect, going to show you? Well, it's going to |
| respect as he deals with his elders. I reinforce this | | | | show that I have respect for my elders, that I find |
| point with him when I watch him interact. I was with | | | | value in the concept of respect itself. What might |
| him the other day at his marshal arts lesson. And in | | | | you believe as a result of hearing this story? That I |
| front of my son, I addressed his Sensei. I said, | | | | am highly respectful. |
| 'Sensei, I wanted to tell you that at the last belt | | | | This sets the frame. Within the frame, we can |
| advancement that I was just at with my son, I was | | | | leverage knowledge so that somebody like our |
| really impressed. There was a man there that must | | | | listener, has an undiscovered hero. |
| have been in his seventies.' And Sensei smiled broadly | | | | What are some of your stories that might elicit deep |
| and he said, 'Yes. He's about 73.' | | | | emotional responses and how can you incorporate |
| And I said, 'He was up for the test to advance his | | | | them into your persuasion repertoire? |