On Choosing Your Own Spiritual Path

Introductionlistening to the aspect and intent of the name.
" What path is right for me?", is a question that eachIn our early 21st century world we have many
seeker asks at least once in their lives. As children,examples of what I call "filter-itis". Christians fight
most individuals follow the pathways of their parents.Muslims, Jews fight Christians, Wiccan's fight
Even if a parent has no particular spiritual path, theHeathens, on and on and on.
child is influenced by their parent. This is almostTherefore, the first step in choosing a path is to put
genetic as, regardless of a path, the mother, to theaway the expectations of the society you are in and
child, is the goddess. As one grows older and beginsfocus on the intent of the pathway without these
to think for themselves, they begin to feel a desirefilters.
to either embrace or reject their parentalSociety and Acceptance
suggestions. This includes the chosen spiritual path ofThere is a quote from John Donne (1572-1631), which
the individual.is in his "Devotions Upon Emergent Occasions",
In my own life, I have spent time in many "spiritual"Meditation XVII: that goes like this:
and "religious" pathways. Some of these were even"All mankind is of one author, and is one volume;
of my own choosing at the time, so I thought.when one man dies, one chapter is not torn out of
However, as we are social creatures, even the mostthe book, but translated into a better language; and
reclusive of us, we still seem to blunder about untilevery chapter must be so translated...As therefore
we finally settle on what works well for us.the bell that rings to a sermon, calls not upon the
Over the years as I facilitate myself and others onpreacher only, but upon the congregation to come:
reaching some kind of accommodation with theirso this bell calls us all: but how much more me, who
desires for spiritual connection, certain indicationsam brought so near the door by this sickness....No
seem to be prevelant with the majority of individuals.man is an island, entire of itself...any man's death
What is a Spiritual Path?diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind; and
defines the word spiritual, (among other things) as:oftherefore never send to know for whom the bell
or pertaining to the spirit or soul, as distinguishedtolls; it tolls for thee."
from the physical nature: a spiritual approach to life.While Mr Donne was a Christian, the sentiment
We will not concern ourselves in this article with theexpressed above is still true, (See, I practice what I
definition of the soul, despite differing presuppositionalpreach). We are social creatures that desire the
ethics, but accept this as a good working definition toacceptance of those around us. The problem occurs
add to our word "path".when we desire our existing friends, colleagues,family,
Again, defines a path as:a route, course, or tracketc, to accept our new choice, just because we do!
along which something moves, or a course of action,Our brother or sister, who follows another path, can
conduct, or procedure.not always see that our path is equally valid.
So, combining both of these we have a spiritual pathSometimes this is because they are not following
is one where an individual is taking a route whethertheir true path either, however, it can also be that
physically or metaphysically that pertains to thethey truly feel that there path is RIGHT and yours is
non-physical being of a person.WRONG. While, based on the concept that all paths
This definition allows for many diverse methodologiesare one path, ( my own pre-suppositional ethic), this
including those that are primarily of the phsyicalis not necessarily the filters that others see through.
realms, and those that are primarily of theTherefore, seeking acceptance by others, while part
non-physical realms.of our social conditioning, does not "play well" with
Pressures that act as filterssome of those around us that follow a different path.
As we stated in the introduction, many factorsI have many Christian, Buddhist, Hindu, ( not what
influence our examination and determination of ourthey call themselves-a topic for another article) ,
path. Some of these factors include, environment,Jewish, pagan, Wiccan, eclectic, heathen friends, and
social network, (including parents, friends, andfamily, the only thing that is important to me is that
co-workers), ethnicity or blood line, andthey respect my path as I respect theirs.
connectedness, or lack of it, to the world around us.What to look for in a path
Each of these act as filters through which we seeSince, each of us must live within our own filters,
the world around us. Ask any couple in a relationshipexamine the path that calls you in as objective way
how many times they "read between the lines" of aas possible. If you are called to Quanyin, (the
statement just to see how effective filters are in ourbodhavista form of the deity of Compassion and
daily lives.Love - androgynous) then accept that particular deity
One example of filters in relationships is as follows:as one that speaks to you.
One partner is cooking dinner and asks the otherIf you feel that the trees speak with you, and you
partner: "Would you please take out the overflowingcan hear/feel this then follow this where it leads you
trash please?" The partner who was asks responds:and don't automatically say, I am not ____ (insert
"What, why do you do that, I work all day and ofappropriate group here) and can not really be
course I will take it out. I simply forgot. What do youassociated with trees.
think I sit and read all day? I work too! If it is tooIf you feel that a particular set of rules (i.e. The
much trouble for you to cook dinner tonight then weWiccan Rede) speaks to you and reverberates
could have gone out!"within, then follow it and find others that can support
The first partner is taken aback by the intensity ofyou.
the response as all they really asked was for theirWhat is important is that it fills some needs within
partner to take out the trash! Not everything else!yourself.
The second partner read between the lines, of theThe next step is to investigate the teachings of the
other through there own filters.path and take on that which speaks to you.
While this is an extreme example, you can see whatBe true to yourself and don't belittle, or agonize over
filters do in this mundane world, imagine what it doesthe choices you have made.
for our persuit of a spiritual path. Each individuals pathBe confident in yourself. You are the one who must
is unique. One may utilize the same aspects of thefollow the path, so you are the only one that needs
divine, yet call them by another name. Take theto "understand" the path.
deific aspect of healing. In some pathways, the deityLastly, do not label yourself if it would put you in a
of healing is Bridghid, (and lets not forget thatbox that you do not wish to be part. Boxes are
spellings and language for even the same deity showcreated by large groups and if you are a "round peg"
regional differences), others it is Kwan Yin, andwhy fit into a "square hole"?
others Quanyin. Whole nations have gone to warEnjoy the Journey! After all - ALL life is a Journey..
over the NAME of a particular deity rather than