| Emotional Boundaries Require Constant Vigil | | | | might be too threatening to our partner. Standing up |
| I'm convinced that people will gnaw away at our | | | | for you somehow equates to disrespecting them. |
| personal boundaries if you let them. They are just like | | | | All of this causes me to wonder how you develop a |
| those little no-see-um gnats that swarm your head | | | | relationship in which both parties have the right to |
| and drive you nuts. If you make concessions and | | | | draw the boundary in the sand without becoming |
| give anyone in your life an inch, I will guarantee they | | | | threatened? Is it after the third date that you have a |
| will take a mile. That is why maintaining your | | | | State meeting between yourselves and formulate a |
| emotional boundaries requires a constant vigil on your | | | | strategic plan by which you each agree to operate as |
| part. | | | | independent States yet each contributes to the good |
| I'm no relationship therapist but, even I know that it | | | | of the Country as a whole? Honestly, I don't know |
| is a constant struggle to keep that line clearly drawn | | | | how this works. What I do know is that what I |
| in the sand. Even though the waves of humanity are | | | | know about developing and maintaining a successful |
| constantly trying to erase the boundaries that you | | | | relationship ain't much. |
| set it is incumbent upon you to maintain your | | | | Emotional Boundaries and Counseling |
| authenticity and keep up the border. | | | | I am beginning to believe that most of us cannot |
| Emotional Boundaries in Love Relationships | | | | organically develop whole, emotionally healthy |
| Love relationships are the hardest. With the ebb and | | | | relationships without the aid of relationship counseling. |
| flow of a personal relationship, emotional boundaries | | | | My hypothesis is partially tested through my personal |
| are hard to keep. There is a tendency to give more | | | | life experience. First, most of us are a product of mild |
| slack in these relationships than we would give a | | | | to moderate dysfunction within our own families. The |
| friend or coworker. Saying No is hard but, saying No | | | | generation that raised us is the same generation that |
| and really meaning No requires a steely reserve that | | | | developed child psychology. |
| most of us do not have. That's where couples | | | | Therefore, it is reasonable to assume that what our |
| counseling, marriage therapy or other counseling | | | | parents knew about healthy child rearing was only |
| services come in handy. These folks are trained | | | | slightly more advanced than the techniques of their |
| professionals. They know how to navigate the land | | | | own parents. |
| mines that exist along the pathway to a healthy | | | | I believe that our own biorhythms functions to draw |
| relationship. | | | | to us that person that responds to our personal |
| I am angry right now. I have allowed many of my | | | | energy. |
| personal boundaries to become breached over the | | | | If we are brought up in an extremely restrictive |
| last week. I'm feeling exhausted and overwhelmed. | | | | environment and suffer from low self-esteem, what |
| I'm trying to make really good decisions yet, I feel | | | | sort of energy do you suppose we are putting out |
| like I'm being stuffed back down into the box from | | | | there into the Universe? |
| which I recently escaped. Writing is my depression | | | | What sort of mate would you expect to draw to |
| therapist. For me, sharing my thoughts with you is | | | | yourself? A predator perhaps? Maybe someone that |
| my best treatment for depression. | | | | might take advantage of your weaknesses? |
| Most of you know that when I left my husband last | | | | I want you to see from this analogy how important |
| year, I completely re-evaluated everything about my | | | | it is to become emotionally healthy and to stand |
| life. I formulated a new plan and set upon a path of | | | | strong in the face of your emotional boundary line |
| self-awareness and emotional healing. I wanted to let | | | | violators. Take a stick and draw a giant swath in the |
| go of my anger and learn to love and value myself | | | | metaphoric sand of life. Mark and defend your |
| again. In order to do this, I had to say good-bye to | | | | personal boundaries against those that would try to |
| my old way of doing things. This included constantly | | | | breach them. Encourage those you love to do the |
| giving in or rather giving up my personal boundaries | | | | same. |
| and what was important to me. | | | | When you find yourself struggling, don't forget there |
| Emotional Boundaries and Codependency | | | | are many professionals out there that can help you |
| I believe that the opposite of boundaries is | | | | and your loved one navigate the choppy waters of |
| codependency. After all, when we rely on emotional | | | | relationships. They are experts at turning the tables |
| dependency to operate, we actually morph into the | | | | on the negative and shining a light back on the |
| person our partner wants us to be. We become | | | | possibilities of a healthy, loving relationship. When it |
| unable to maintain our own identity because that | | | | gets to hard don't forget to ask for help. |