| Are there things from your own childhood, mistakes | | | | which ever healed. They still need to be healed. |
| that your parents made, that you have sworn to do | | | | So your task, here, is to consider the unresolved |
| differently if you have children? | | | | issues and for each one, identify some of the |
| "The most natural thing we do is raise our children | | | | memories connected to it. What actually happened |
| the way we were raised...Adults who had difficult | | | | that formed the foundation for this issue? |
| childhoods for any reason-trauma, abuse, neglect, or | | | | Make A Commitment to Heal Them |
| separation due to divorce, for example-may have | | | | Personal growth, emotional healing, getting over all of |
| some challenges to overcome."-- Barbara Nicholson | | | | this stuff that happens in your early years but stays |
| and Lysa Parker, Attached at the Heart: 8 Proven | | | | with you forever, is hard work. It's not for the faint |
| Parenting Principles for Raising Connected and | | | | of heart! |
| Compassionate Children | | | | Consider whether or not this is the time to take on |
| This article, part of a series on deciding if and when | | | | such a task and then, plan for putting the support in |
| to have a baby, is about overcoming those | | | | place to help you do it. If you are planning to be a |
| challenges, healing those unresolved issues, whatever | | | | parent, there is no more noble commitment to make |
| they are. | | | | than to decide to heal so that you don't make the |
| Identify What Went Wrong | | | | same mistakes your parents did. |
| Take an honest look at what the unresolved issues | | | | But I don't think you can do it alone. Or quickly. Or |
| are. How have you been hurt? What did you need | | | | easily. |
| that you didn't get and how did that hurt you? | | | | Begin the Healing Process |
| The next big question has to do with how it all | | | | There are many resources available for growth and |
| affected you. Consider the different areas of your | | | | healing. Many people choose counseling or therapy or |
| life and take out your mental magnifying glass to look | | | | coaching and I highly recommend them for help in |
| for problems you might not have had, difficulties you | | | | identifying the things you haven't even remembered |
| might have avoided. | | | | yet and helping you understand just how profoundly |
| For example, if you always felt like you were in the | | | | what you are thinking was "not that big a deal" |
| way in your family, then perhaps you hide out at | | | | affected you. |
| work. Perhaps you don't ask for what you want or | | | | But those cellular memories need healing, too, and for |
| need in your relationships. | | | | that, I recommend energy healing techniques. There |
| Find the Memories that Need to Heal | | | | are a plethora available so take your time and choose |
| If you follow what went wrong all the way down to | | | | one that you are comfortable with and willing to stick |
| the bottom of the well, what you will find is cellular | | | | with over the long haul. |
| memories, limiting beliefs and painful feelings, none of | | | | |