Getting to the Heart of Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day is coming up in a few days but I'min the 4th century B.C., the rites of passage of young
betting you know that already. Probably completelymen to the pagan god Lupercus were celebrated in a
prepared, right?lottery where teenage boys selected the names of
Me? I got some ideas working. Might head out to theteenage girls out of a box to establish romantic
mall. Pick up a box of candy. Everyone loves sweetsrelationships for a period of one year.
and one size fits all unless you've got will powerSome 800 years later in 496 A.D., Pope Gelasius
issues. Maybe one of those red velvet cards...wanted the church to distance itself from such pagan
Who am I kidding? I'm never prepared for Valentine'srituals and commanded that the names of young
Day because I don't get it. Every year Valentine'swomen be replaced with the names of saints, with
Day comes around and every year I feel like I'mthe intention that young men would forget all about
being slapped with a romance subpoena demandinggirls and choose to emulate the saints they selected.
that I declare my love and my savings to everyoneYou don't need a market research firm to tell you
I've ever met.how that went over.
I have to buy cards and gifts for my children to giveUndaunted, the Church continued to seek a more
to their classmates, their teachers, their friends, theirsuitable representative for romantic love than a
grandparents. I'm supposed to purchase somethingpagan god, and reached back in history to 270 A.D.
for my wife, my daughters, co-workers and myto summon Valentine, the bishop of Interamna, who
mother. What's the significance of this sloppy,had been clubbed and beheaded for his devotion to
all-inclusive holiday anyway? If Valentine's Day islovers and the sacrament of marriage.
about romance, why in the name of Sigmund FreudValentine had raised the ire of the Roman emperor
and Jerry Springer must I send something to myClaudius II, known far and wide as a certifiable lunatic
mother? Isn't that why we have Mother's Day?(but not to his face), who abolished marriage as a
Judging by what people spend on this holiday, I maymeans to strengthen his armies. Claudius believed
be the only one on the planet who remains in thethat married men made poor soldiers who preferred
dark as to what we're celebrating when we celebratestaying home and cleaning the gutters rather than
Valentine's Day.poking strangers with sharp objects who often
According to the National Retail Federation's 2004poked back with sharp objects of their own. Without
Valentine's Day Consumer Intentions and Actionswives at home, Claudius reasoned that men would
Survey (romantic title, no?), Americans spent $13welcome the diversion of invading another country
billion on cards, candy, flowers, jewelry and meals,on the weekends instead of say, bowling.
averaging out to nearly $100 per individual.In defiance of the decree, Valentine continued to
That's nothing. Young adults between the ages ofmarry couples in secret until Claudius found out.
18-24 are the biggest spenders, averaging $155Impressed with Valentine's conviction and integrity,
apiece. For the sake of those poor kids, let's hopeClaudius attempted to convert Valentine to paganism
the relationships last as long as it takes to pay offas a means to avoid execution. Valentine, against the
the credit cards used to purchase all thosestrong protests of his attorney, attempted to
expressions of love. Love? What's love got to doconvert Claudius to Christianity. Although Claudius
with it? This is big business, baby.made a half-hearted gesture of flipping through a
"But John, you're just being cynical." Maybe you'reChristian pamphlet Valentine had given him, Claudius
right, whoever just said that. Perhaps I've spoken toremained a pagan and Valentine held fast to his belief
soon. Maybe I should go back to the beginning toin God and the sanctity of marriage.
understand the origins of Valentine's Day beforeDuring his imprisonment, Valentine fell in love with the
passing judgment. You can come to; just don't getblind daughter of his jailer and reportedly through his
too chummy. The last thing I need is another personunyielding faith, miraculously restored her sight. Before
I've got to buy something for.his execution, he signed a farewell message to his
The story of Valentine's Day is one in which fact andbeloved, "From your Valentine.
legend are intertwined - just like blind dates. Beginning