Frustration Is Making Me, Well, Frustrated!

How many times have you said it? "I'm so frustratedholding on to something which isn't happening the
I could just...Whatever."way you think it should. Holding on to something
Have you ever wondered what the feeling ofwhen it isn't happening will not cause it to happen. But
frustration really is? What's the deal? Why do youit will cause you to not be able to think and feel
feel it? There's that pushing sensation in your solarclearly about the situation. And when you can't think
plexus. There's that squeezing sensation in your belly.or feel clearly about whatever the situation is, you
Your hands clench. Your jaw clenches. Your teethget frustrated. That's a losing game if there ever
grind.was one.
You know what it is? I finally figured it out. It'sOkay. So, what do you do? How do you get rid of
resistance to the acceptance of what is. You werethat frustration even for just a few minutes. It would
supposed to meet someone for coffee. She didn'tfeel so good to be able to do that. It's easy but it
show up. You're frustrated. Why? Because, insteaddoes take practice. Sit still for just a few minutes.
of getting yourself a cup of coffee and a nice pieceClose your eyes. Find the place in your body where it
of chocolate cake, you're resisting the fact that shefeels the tightest. Put your attention there. Feel as if
didn't show up.You were supposed to have ayour breath is going there. Hold that feeling for a
conference call with a couple of people at 6pm.couple of minutes. But while you're holding the feeling,
They're not answering their phones. Your teeth areremember to breathe. Feel that place loosen up. Now
clenching. You're breathing heavily. Why? Because,move the next place which feels constricted. Breathe
instead of just going about your business, you're madthere. Feel it loosen. And just keep doing that for a
that they missed the call and you're holding on to thelittle while till pretty soon, all those tight places will
notion that they were supposed to be there. Thehave let go of their resistance.
project you've poured your heart and soul into for 4Give yourself a pat on the back. Get up and go
years feels like it's becoming toast right now. Andabout your business. Watch for the next wave of
your belly hurts like mad. Why? Because you can'tfrustration and do this process again. It might take a
see that maybe there's an actual reason for this butfew passes but the frustration and resistance will
you just don't know what it is right now. You'repass if you continue to become conscious of it and
resisting what is. And that's frustration.allow yourself to relax into your breath. Good job!
Frustration equals resistance. Resistance equals