| Someone once told me, when I am angry I cry and | | | | so much? What is so powerful them me? |
| get mad and yell and try to hurt everyone else and | | | | Step Two: How deep does it really hurt, and describe |
| make them feel as bad as I feel, because I want to | | | | it: is it like a sharp pain, sharp knife, feels like a boiling |
| hurt them as much as I was hurt in my past. When | | | | blood, stubbing knife, tight muscles? Why does it feel |
| I'm sad I cry and cry and don't feel well and pretty | | | | so strong? |
| much the same when I'm angry I say things very | | | | When you done that: you are ready to access the |
| mean because I want people to feel hurt like the | | | | center of the pain...that is when you can understand |
| way I feel. | | | | it, so you can make a decision that nothing is so |
| When I asked why is that: this is what I have learned | | | | important then what really makes you feel good, and |
| from this person: when I was little I had a hard life | | | | that can be a laughter, a calmness, good food, good |
| my mom was a druggy and my dad was an alcoholic | | | | music, being around a friend, I am sure you can find |
| and drug addict and they were divorced, they were | | | | something that you can relate to, so you can think |
| never there for me and still aren't, they always said | | | | positive...then concentrate on all the good things you |
| cruel harsh things to me and they never supported | | | | have done and accomplished so far, the last |
| me, not even today. | | | | compliment you received, the love you have with |
| I have been molested when I was young by my | | | | your pet, your art, your lover, your partner if you |
| mother's husband and my nephew, I have done | | | | have one, your family or children... look into the values |
| things and had things done to me in which I regret | | | | and the morals of that feelings. |
| very much. I have hurt people I truly love and care | | | | Third step: is to "access your core value": Review |
| for and I am not able to get close to anyone without | | | | those things that make your life worth living, like |
| one of us getting hurt. | | | | good things you've done, the last compliment you |
| I am sure you all get angry one way or another, | | | | received, the last gift you received that maid you |
| anger is a normal feelings of hurt and frustration, | | | | feel wow, the loving relationships you have, the |
| because you feel hopeless, you feel that you can't | | | | things and goals you have accomplished so far.... |
| do anything about it, feeling stuck? Almost like | | | | Then when you realize all that, you cam move to the |
| something is choking you? If so, you're not alone. | | | | next level: |
| Many Psychologists explains that anger is simply a | | | | Fourth Step: Knowing yourself and "loving yourself", |
| feeling that has been hurt, and it is possible to heal | | | | you can start with positive affirmation about |
| that negative feeling with simple relaxation | | | | yourself; say it like you are saying it loud to a good |
| techniques, followed with hypnotic suggestions to | | | | friend, student, a child, a pet. |
| control that unconscious trigger and activates that | | | | You can change all the negative messages you herd |
| uncontrollable urge to retaliate - often this | | | | from people who you expected love from, but they |
| suggestions are given to disconnect this shocking | | | | failed to deliver: Like if someone said you are |
| wires from retaliating, which in this case, it is a very | | | | "Stupid", you can change it by saying, I am smart, I |
| cement technique for "anger management", and it is | | | | am intelligent, "it's not true that I am stupid" or It's |
| very much affective when it is done hypnotically. | | | | not true that I am ugly, actually I feel attractive and |
| What is anger? We said it is feeling as a result of | | | | everyone around me can notice that, I am kind, I am |
| being hurt...to be angry means, feeling guilty and | | | | loving, I am patient... |
| ashamed, worthless and rejected. | | | | Once you start believe in your new affirmations, you |
| So how can hypnosis heal these negative feelings of | | | | find a way to solve any problems you may face, as |
| anger? | | | | long as you can connect with your inner feelings |
| Well, this is the easy part, the hypnotist usually builds | | | | underneath the anger. You must remember, that |
| a rapport; relax the client, then uses guided imagery | | | | anger is a normal feeling and it is absolutely a healthy |
| to bring back those negative feelings, then those | | | | emotion, that you must be careful, as to giving it |
| feeling being healed with other positive suggestions | | | | much power.. There for it is your duty to approach |
| and triggers, or anchors. I can anchor the negative | | | | your feelings beneath the anger and work through |
| feeling to something suitable to the client, since each | | | | them. |
| and individual understands it differently and there for | | | | There are many ways, you can approach it: for |
| they will cope with it differently. | | | | example you may want to write down what you are |
| For example: The client will be asked to concentrate | | | | feeling when you are angry, then write down why is |
| on the first time they started to feel angry, then the | | | | it happening to you, and allow it to be your own |
| hypnotist will give them a replacement word that is | | | | opinion, your own voice, then give your self few |
| positive to this feeling: | | | | ideas or suggestions as how do you think you should |
| Each and every time you have that instant feeling of | | | | handle it, of course thinking calm, and allow your inner |
| anger, take a deep breath and think of the word "I | | | | child, that other voice to come up with an solution, a |
| am calm" in your mind. Or If you find yourself in a | | | | plan to win this battle, I promise you, if you practice |
| situation that is upsetting you, instantly be aware of | | | | what I have suggested here, you will become an |
| it and take a deep breath, feeling calm, thinking calm, | | | | expert at managing your anger. |
| or visualize or imagine a blackboard, and the word "I | | | | I always say fake it until you make it, yes, it is all |
| am calm" is flashing in front of you, you can see it | | | | about repetitions, over and over again, coaching |
| now in the color that is blue, serene, and if a | | | | yourself over the voyage of one to two months, |
| particular person is making you mad, visualize or | | | | and that will reinforce the new suggestions and will |
| imagine this person is wearing a T-Shirt with the | | | | reinstall a new conditioning pattern to your new core |
| words "I am calm", all over their shirt, skin, face, its all | | | | value. |
| over and as you see it is turning blue and you feel so | | | | So as soon as the feeling of anger arises, you think |
| calm, because you are in control now.... | | | | about "Calmness" "I am calm, " Blue light" or anything |
| Now pay attention: Think of that person that use to | | | | that you can think of that can bring positive feelings, |
| make you feel bad, now in your own mind, see it and | | | | like your pet, your love, your children... remember, |
| feel that you are calm and relaxed. Now that you are | | | | practice makes it perfect, so fake it until you make |
| relaxed, you can talk about your feelings and | | | | it. I would love to hear about your experience after |
| understand the "deepest foundation to the feeling | | | | using my techniques and how did it work for you. I |
| hurt" that is the friend who is related to dishonesty | | | | am a professional fully qualified and experienced in |
| and it is the best friend to your hurt, the enemy | | | | helping change my client's life style in the most |
| behind the feelings of anger. | | | | natural ways possible. You can contact me for your |
| Here is an exercise: | | | | free consultation... local or long distance. Free your |
| Step One: Ask yourself: why do I feel angry? How | | | | self from the nightmare of Uncontrollable Anger. |
| does it make me really feel? Why does it upset me | | | | |